I sit quite in the dark, it's late and
everyone in the house is asleep. I've tried to sleep but sleep has
not come to my front door for me. As I stand in front of the door jam
as the light hits his face just right I can see he is breathing and
does not seem like he is in pain “that I know of”. This is my
time not to be so strong and hold it in. My time to weep in the halls
before the sun rises. He's just a child a beautiful loving boy that
cry's when I raise my voice or laughs at a knock knock jokes a little
boy that can still touch his dreams and nothing has stopped him. He
can be anything at this moment. As I watch him sleep I know he will
wake up smile, try his best to do all the things that are demanded of
him to do at school and I know it is getting harder and harder for
him. I can't help but to want to pick him up and rock him but he is
almost as tall as I am and I would not dear to wake him. My baby, I
walk over and touch his head very soft and whisper “I love you my
beautiful boy” and walk to the next door and open it just a little.
She knows, my teenager girl that has
grown into an adult with in a year because she has already had her
brain surgery. My weep becomes a sob and it's caught in my throat. My
daughter did not get a childhood and now she is left with out
enjoying high school. The guilt of all the years I complained about
my life is so heavy that it wont wash away with reason. She is so
beautiful and strong I admire her so much for who she is and how she
has worked through all her illnesses not once stopping or quitting
school or her goal for a 4.0 . My daughter is the one that pushes me
to move through each day and become a better person. I don't want to
wake her up or she won't fall back asleep, she is always up and down
in the night but I have to make sure she is sleeping well and not in
a seizure. That is a blessing tonight. I close the door and am lost
to the world not knowing what is next for them. I stand alone with
out any control on how to help my children get better but know
exactly what they are going through.
Chiari is a cruel disease.
I was always so good at what is , is
when it came to me being ill. I was not mad. I was sad and scared but
I fight with why my children? The only place for me is outside with
my thoughts. As I sit and try to come up with what to do and how to
hang on to this hell we live in. My mind will not stop replaying what
a person said to me. “Well It looks like you got all the bad luck
in the family”. Yep sure does but my children should not pay for
it. Words hurts, like a knife stabbing your heart over and over and
not because I'm sick because my children are.
I grab the cushion and sit in the
middle of the grass and pray, “please take it away from them give
it too me not my babies let me have it. I'm their mother I should
hold the burden please let me have there illness’s. After my hands
are numb and I ache I go to bed and stare at this wonderful man who
has stood by our side not once wanting to leave. Hell I've wanted to
run for a day but don't and he is always there holding us loving us
working two jobs to try and pay the bills even though I know it will
kill him not seeing our children everyday. Sickness works in a
strange way it can tare and family apart or pull it closer, I know we
are one of the lucky ones. We are closer.
I'm writing this because I have too,
because this is our life because our children are sick and there is
no where else to put it. I want other mothers or fathers to know they
are not alone. Most of all I want the world to know what we go though
living with Chiari. We wait and dream of the day Chiari is not in our
every day life. We dream of it. I thought I have gone through hard
times, there is nothing worse then your child or children being sick
and there is not a damn thing you can do but enjoy a good day or even
a bad one.
Note: This is written from my life and
our family not all Chiarian families go though this. I know most of
my post have a happy ending or a way to deal with this illness.
Sometimes you need to just wright the truth and not sugar coat it. If
you have medical questions please call your doctor or 911 we do not
have medical staff on site. I send you all love and support and I am
always hear for each one of you.
With all my love and support
Heather founder of Zipperheads for
Chiari
1 comment:
How do I become a member? I was just diagnosed after 30 years of such pain & numbness. October 5,2012 I had the surgery for Chiari and they had to remove part of L1 to make more room. I would love to talk with you on my strange recovery and ask questions..Thanks in advance,
Suzanne from Porter,Tx
suzyqz1130@yahoo.com
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